{"id":1189,"date":"2017-10-26T06:27:49","date_gmt":"2017-10-26T06:27:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.destinymiracle.com\/blog\/?p=1189"},"modified":"2018-06-14T01:21:04","modified_gmt":"2018-06-14T01:21:04","slug":"why-you-keep-sabotaging-your-dreams","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/destinymiracle.com\/blog\/why-you-keep-sabotaging-your-dreams","title":{"rendered":"Why You Keep Sabotaging Your Dreams"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Author of <strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.destinymiracle.com\/go\/video2\">Manifestation Miracle<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3><em><strong>Do you want to unlock your inner power to <strong>manifest the life<\/strong> you&#8217;ve been dreaming of? Don&#8217;t forget to check out the\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><strong><em><a href=\"http:\/\/www.destinymiracle.com\/go\/video2\"><em>Manifestation Miracle<\/em><\/a>\u00a0program&#8230;<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n<h2>Why You Keep Sabotaging Your Dreams<\/h2>\n<p>Before I made a breakthrough in my own life, I used to be stuck in a mediocre state like most people.<\/p>\n<p>I felt this deep sense of <strong>dissatisfaction<\/strong> that I <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">couldn\u2019t<\/span> shake off. And at the time, I didn\u2019t know that the solution was staring me right in the face.<\/p>\n<p>A huge part of me was <strong>scared<\/strong> to try because I was too deep in my \u201ccomfort zone\u201d. You\u2019ve probably heard that term thrown around a lot if you\u2019ve been reading personal development material for some time now.<\/p>\n<p>But it\u2019s true \u2013 it\u2019s the reason why a lot of people (myself included) never act on their life-changing ideas.<\/p>\n<h3>Worse, they actually sabotage themselves to stay in their comfort zone \u2013 even if it means giving up on their dreams.<\/h3>\n<p>People unconsciously do this in many ways, and I was <strong>guilty<\/strong> of this too. I remember how <strong>painful<\/strong> it was to be in that dark place, and a video I recently watched reminded me of that:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Lp7E973zozc?rel=0?showinfo=0&amp;iv_load_policy=3&amp;rel=0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Mel Robbins, an on-air commentator, TV host, author and life coach, did a TED talk called \u201cHow to Stop Screwing Yourself Over\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>According to her, a third of Americans &#8211; or a hundred million people &#8211; feel dissatisfied with their lives right now.<\/p>\n<p>When I said a &#8216;lot of people&#8217;, I wasn\u2019t kidding. And chances are the biggest obstacle isn\u2019t some physical barrier that\u2019s keeping them from what they want.<\/p>\n<p>As Mel puts it, it\u2019s the <strong>\u2018Inner Snooze Button\u2019<\/strong> that comes up whenever someone has a fantastic, life-changing idea. As soon as it comes up, people hit snooze on their idea and put it to sleep <strong>for good<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>But why do people (as Mel cheekily points out) keep screwing themselves like this?<\/p>\n<p>The biggest reason is that people convince themselves that they\u2019re <strong>\u2018fine\u2019<\/strong>. And according to Mel, here are the reasons why this word is <strong>toxic<\/strong> to your dreams:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Saying you\u2019re \u2018fine\u2019 means you\u2019ve <strong>convinced<\/strong> yourself that you\u2019re OK even if you don\u2019t have what you <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">want<\/span>.<\/li>\n<li>Being \u2018fine\u2019 means you are <strong>not pushing yourself<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<li>\u2018Fine\u2019 describes the areas in your life where you\u2019ve <strong>given up<\/strong>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I was like that before: perfectly \u2018happy\u2019 to be where I was in life. For the longest time, I was \u2018fine\u2019 being an average woman with no <strong>scary<\/strong> ambitions that would disturb my self-made cocoon of mediocrity.<\/p>\n<p>All those unique ideas I had that could make a difference would just have to <strong>take a backseat<\/strong> for good.<\/p>\n<p>But that\u2019s the most painful reality of all&#8230;<\/p>\n<h4>People lose sight of just how special they are and the value they bring into the world. All those plans that could have taken them to the next level are permanently on hold.<\/h4>\n<p>And the root of the problem is the <strong>resistance to change<\/strong> that builds up in your mind.<\/p>\n<p>Tell me if the following thoughts sound familiar to you when an awesome idea pops up in your head:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cOh that\u2019s just too much trouble\u2026I\u2019m FINE right here, thank you very much.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThat seems like a whole lot of work\u2026maybe next time.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI don\u2019t really have the energy or skills to do that\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cMy job isn\u2019t that bad\u2026I can pay the bills and eat so that\u2019s good enough\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019m just not feeling it right now\u2026maybe when I\u2019m ready\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n<p>That last one is especially insidious. That\u2019s your brain playing a <strong>trick<\/strong> on you because you KNOW that you\u2019ll <strong>NEVER<\/strong> feel like doing it.<\/p>\n<p>To get around this mental trap, Mel says you need to use your <strong>\u2018Activation Energy\u2019<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>This is the energy inside you that <strong>FORCES<\/strong> you to do the things you <strong>NEED<\/strong> to do\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026even if you <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">don\u2019t<\/span> feel like doing it.<\/p>\n<p>When your parents woke you up to go to school, you didn\u2019t feel like it, but they <strong>forced<\/strong> you to. The <strong>first few minutes<\/strong> of waking up felt awful, but you were <strong>ok<\/strong> after that.<\/p>\n<p>Now that you\u2019re all grown up, you\u2019ll have to \u201cparent yourself\u201d as Mel says. She made this point that struck me the most:<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>\u201cIt\u2019s your job to do the things you don\u2019t want to do so you can become everything that you are <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">supposed<\/span> to be.\u201d<\/em><\/h2>\n<p>Then she hit the audience with a little trick to overcome that inertia. It\u2019s what Mel calls <strong>The Five Second Rule<\/strong> which <strong>destroys any hesitation<\/strong> in your mind.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s how it works\u2026<\/p>\n<p>She states that there are two sides of the brain: Emergency Brake and Autopilot.<\/p>\n<p>Anything you do that\u2019s part of your <strong>routine<\/strong> falls under Autopilot. And when you try to do something <strong>outside<\/strong> of that, you instinctively pull the Emergency Brake.<\/p>\n<p>So the Five Second Rule states that your brain will pull the brake <strong>FIVE SECONDS<\/strong> after thinking of a new idea. The trick then is to marry your idea with a <strong>tangible action<\/strong> BEFORE you hit the brakes.<\/p>\n<p>It doesn\u2019t have to be a huge step. What matters is that your action \u2013 no matter how small it is &#8211; brings you <strong>closer<\/strong> to executing your idea.<\/p>\n<p>And this resonated with me because I know EXACTLY what it feels like to NOT FEEL like doing what\u2019s needed to make my plans happen.<\/p>\n<p>I realized back then that <strong>no amount<\/strong> of external motivation was going to get me off the couch.<\/p>\n<p>If I wanted to change my life, I had to <strong>drag myself<\/strong> out of that pit of inaction. I accepted the fact that it was going to be an <strong>uncomfortable<\/strong> process, like swallowing a spoonful of bitter medicine.<\/p>\n<p>It wasn\u2019t fun, but I <strong>powered through<\/strong> the process knowing that it was going to make me better in the end.<\/p>\n<p>And if you want to get rid of the urge to fall into a mediocre routine, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.destinymiracle.com\/index-written.php\"><strong>I\u2019ve got the formula right here<\/strong><\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Click that link above to learn the little-known scientific formula that <strong>FORCES<\/strong> the Universe to turn your ideas into <strong>REALITY<\/strong>. Once you know the truth, there&#8217;s no going back&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>To your success,<\/p>\n<p>Heather Mathews<\/p>\n<h3><strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.destinymiracle.com\/go\/video\">Learn how to FORCE the Universe to give you everything you&#8217;ve ever wanted\u2026and MORE!<\/a><\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.destinymiracle.com\/go\/video\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2436 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/destinymiracle.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MM-Video-v2.jpg\" alt=\"Manifestation Miracle Video\" width=\"933\" height=\"420\" srcset=\"https:\/\/destinymiracle.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MM-Video-v2.jpg 933w, https:\/\/destinymiracle.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MM-Video-v2-300x135.jpg 300w, https:\/\/destinymiracle.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/MM-Video-v2-768x346.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 933px) 100vw, 933px\" \/><\/a><\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Author of Manifestation Miracle Do you want to unlock your inner power to manifest the life you&#8217;ve been dreaming of? 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