{"id":2685,"date":"2018-03-26T21:56:06","date_gmt":"2018-03-26T21:56:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.destinymiracle.com\/blog\/?p=2685"},"modified":"2018-09-02T23:33:39","modified_gmt":"2018-09-02T23:33:39","slug":"the-silent-treatment-what-to-do-when-someone-is-ignoring-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/destinymiracle.com\/blog\/the-silent-treatment-what-to-do-when-someone-is-ignoring-you","title":{"rendered":"The Silent Treatment: What To Do When Someone Is Ignoring You"},"content":{"rendered":"

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The Silent Treatment: What To Do When Someone Is Ignoring You<\/h2>\n

We\u2019ve all experienced the confusion, insecurity, and uncertainty that comes with feeling ignored.<\/p>\n

Maybe you keep sending messages to a friend who has stopped<\/strong> replying. Or, perhaps you\u2019ve heard nothing after what felt like a successful date.<\/p>\n

No matter the context, you\u2019re left with a slew of unanswered<\/strong> questions and uncomfortable<\/strong> emotions. But what should you do when this type of problem arises?<\/p>\n

7 Steps To Take When Someone Is Ignoring You<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Each time you feel ignored<\/strong> by someone, the causes, and potential solutions will be slightly different. In some cases, it may not be possible to get a full picture<\/strong> of what has happened.<\/p>\n

However, regardless of the person you\u2019re dealing with and the extent of the history you have with them, there\u2019s a methodical<\/strong> approach you can take that will boost your understanding and help to regulate<\/strong> your behavior.<\/p>\n

Try to walk through these seven steps<\/strong> in turn, all of which tackle both emotional regulation and relationship reparation.<\/p>\n

Self-reflection is important throughout, as is reflecting on the dynamic you have with the other person.<\/p>\n

1. Give The Person Space<\/strong><\/h3>\n

If you feel the urge to bombard<\/strong> the other person with questions and demands, you\u2019re not alone! It\u2019s common to want to get to the bottom of the problem right away and to seek reassurance.<\/p>\n

However, one of the most unproductive<\/strong> things you can do is to send them constant messages, keep calling them, or try to meet them without their consent.<\/p>\n

It could not only annoy<\/strong> the person further but also overwhelm them, making the situation worse.<\/p>\n

Instead, take a deep breath and give the person time to cool off, reflect and consider whatever has caused them to ignore you. Look at the situation with an objective<\/strong> eye.<\/p>\n

Next, try to find other things to occupy your time and attention!<\/p>\n

This cooling off period is just as important for your well-being as it is for the other person. You both need<\/strong> ample time to consider what actually happened, rather than simply jumping into a difficult conversation when one or both of you is still feeling raw.<\/p>\n

If a resolution is possible, it\u2019s much more likely after<\/strong> a break.<\/p>\n

2. Make Sure That The Person Is Really Ignoring You<\/strong><\/h3>\n

This particular point may sound obvious at first glance, but you\u2019d be surprised at how many people assume<\/strong> they\u2019re being ignored when in fact they are not! Think about whether this might be true of you.<\/p>\n

For example, have you been hurt often in the past, leaving you with a fear that everyone will eventually abandon you?<\/p>\n

Alternatively, are you so worried about what this specific person thinks of you that you\u2019re likely to be paranoid<\/strong> about their behavior?<\/p>\n

When assessing whether you\u2019re really being ignored, think about other explanations.<\/p>\n

Could the person be especially busy, or going through something stressful?
\nIf not, could they be in a bad mood and ignoring everyone?<\/p>\n

In this latter case, there\u2019s no reason to think there\u2019s a real problem in your relationship. However, if you establish that you are the only<\/strong> person involved, it\u2019s time to look at more personal explanations for what\u2019s going on.<\/p>\n

3. Think About Why The Person Could Be Mad At You<\/strong><\/h3>\n

So, you\u2019ve established that this individual really is ignoring<\/strong> you at the moment. In the majority of cases, this suggests they might<\/strong> be angry at you. What might have caused this anger?<\/p>\n

In some scenarios, the answer might come to you immediately.<\/p>\n

For example, you might easily remember an argument that you had recently. Or, there was a time you didn\u2019t invite the person to a group event.<\/p>\n

Alternatively, maybe a guilty moment when you gossiped about them behind their back. Think about your behavior and actions towards the person recently.<\/p>\n

Once you think you know why the person is angry, you can begin to work out how to talk to them about it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget to put yourself in this person\u2019s shoes.<\/p>\n

You may not have done something objectively bad, so think about how they might have read too much into your actions or how they could have been over-sensitive<\/strong> about a conversation topic.<\/p>\n

Remember that even if you don\u2019t think the anger is justified, understanding it will still help the relationship.<\/p>\n

4. Avoid Overreacting<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When you know for sure that someone is ignoring you, it\u2019s so easy to jump to all kinds of dramatic conclusions.<\/p>\n

For example, you might assume that a friend will never speak to you again, that a potential partner has replaced<\/strong> you with someone else, or that a colleague is going to ask for a transfer out of your department.<\/p>\n

In the majority of cases, being ignored is temporary<\/strong> and doesn\u2019t mean that something awful is going to occur. And, in fact, you can reduce<\/strong> the likelihood of a bad outcome by ensuring<\/strong> that you don\u2019t overreact.<\/p>\n

This advice applies both externally and internally, so try to avoid lashing out as well as stewing in your negative emotions.<\/p>\n

Reason with yourself, reminding your mind that many such situations get resolved<\/strong> peacefully, and deliberately recall times when you have felt similarly yet have ended up mending fences with the person.<\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t Let It Consume You<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When it comes to internal overreactions, the aforementioned advice to stay busy will certainly help. Devote extra time<\/strong> to your favorite hobbies, and to the things that you know you find relaxing.<\/p>\n

Journaling or talking to a sympathetic friend can also be useful.\u00a0 It can help you release pent-up emotions that might otherwise explode.<\/p>\n

Take time to socialize with other people you feel comfortable around.<\/p>\n

Whatever you do, the important thing is to avoid<\/strong> letting this difficult situation consume<\/strong> you.<\/p>\n

Not only is it bad for your mental well-being, but it will also increase the chances of handing things badly\u00a0when you do speak to the person again.<\/p>\n

One thing that might help is to limit<\/strong> the time you\u2019re allowed to spend on thinking about the situation. You might tell yourself that you can reflect on it, write about it or discuss it for half an hour, but that you will then move onto other topics and not return<\/strong> to thoughts about this conflict again until tomorrow.<\/p>\n

6. Meet Face To Face<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Eventually, though not in all cases, you\u2019ll probably end up talking to the person who has been ignoring<\/strong> you.<\/p>\n

They might suggest talking on the phone or exchanging messages via text or online, or perhaps you might even think you\u2019d prefer one of these modes of communication.<\/p>\n

However, be aware that they come with serious<\/strong> downsides.<\/p>\n

In particular, you can\u2019t assess body language or offer your own reassuring body language. This means it\u2019s more likely that there will be a misunderstanding or that one of you will imagine the other is angrier<\/strong> than they really are.<\/p>\n

Whenever you can, make the conversation happen face-to-face<\/strong>. The other person might refuse, in which case less personal options are better than nothing.<\/p>\n

To make the suggestion of an in-person meeting more palatable and less intimidating, suggest a public place (such as in a coffee shop) and make the time boundaries clear (e.g. scheduling a meeting from 2-3pm).<\/p>\n

7. Apologize If Necessary<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Finally, if you\u2019re dealing with someone who has been ignoring you because they\u2019re hurt or angry about something you\u2019ve done, it\u2019s often the case that an apology is the quickest<\/strong> way to move on.<\/p>\n

Assuming you really do believe that you\u2019ve played a part in causing things to go wrong, offer a sincere and explicit apology that stresses your understanding<\/strong> of what you did. This proves you\u2019re serious and not just lazily doling out a token apology.<\/p>\n

In the event that you don\u2019t really think you\u2019ve done anything wrong, you can, of course, apologize<\/strong> just to mend the relationship. However, you\u2019ll need to reflect<\/strong> on what this means for the future.<\/p>\n

Are you setting yourself up for a dynamic where you\u2019re blamed and are constantly in a submissive<\/strong> position?<\/p>\n

If that seems likely, it may be more sensible to stick to your guns, even if this means it takes longer to reach a resolution.<\/p>\n

And if you want to clear negativity entirely from your life, take the next step<\/strong> today.<\/p>\n

There is one little-known technique that’s creating MASSIVE<\/strong> results for those who use it. It’s called the ‘Intention Point’<\/strong> mechanism which harnesses your body’s natural energy to connect<\/strong> with the Universe.<\/p>\n

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